What an amazing weekend! The girls and I, just spent 3 fantastic days together in the mountains. We laughed, cried and shared some very intimate conversations together. We truly bonded as a new family. When we returned home Sunday evening, we decided to burn the rest of our Christmas tree in the fire pit. As we sat around the fire, roasting marshmellows and making Smores and shared some deep conservation. We asked eachother questions and noone was allowed to talk except for the one answering (this was incredibly hard for all us girls)!
"If God was sitting here in the flesh and told you that you could ask Him one question, what would it be?" Kendra said, "I would ask Him why I keep people at arm's length." Kolby, God love her, said, "I would ask Him, why does my sister, Kendra, hate me so much?"
Each of us turned and stared at her. I mean, it's no secret that Kendra and Kolby definitely have sibling rivalry, but it broke my heart to hear her say this out loud. I think it shocked Kendra too. She said, "I don't hate you, I just don't like you sometimes."
I was reminded of a story someone told me long ago. I was struggling with my own issues with people and their dislike towards me for no reason. I just couldn't understand how people can just hate you for nothing.
I decided to tell the girl's. I said, "Girls, there were two sisters. One was on her death bed. Her younger sister came to the hospital to see her. She pleaded with her older sister, "Please, I beg you, you must tell me why you hate me. I have tried all of our lives to make you love me, I've changed my style, agreed with you even when I didn't, anything I could think of, I did it. And you still hated me all of our lives. Please, tell me. Why have you hated me so much? Why?!"
The sister looked at her and matter-of-factly and said, "You were born."
I looked at my two beautiful daughters and reminded them that friends will come and go, but family is forever. I also told them they needed to learn to appreciate each other's differences and that my prayer was that this would never happen to them. I think they got it.
That was until Kolby decided to sneak into Kendra's room, pick up Kendra's "fake" glasses and wear them to school! Well, it was nice while it lasted!
